Top 10 Reasons to Smile

1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive
We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away -- but a smile draws them in (avoid these smile aging habits to keep your smile looking great).



2. Smiling Changes Our Mood
Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.
3. Smiling Is Contagious
When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.
4. Smiling Relieves Stress
Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.
5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.
6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?
7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.
8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger
The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.


9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.
10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive
Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.

Happiness Maishani

When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.


The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've every had.


It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back!



Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.



Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.




There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!


Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.





May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.


Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.





Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.


The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.


Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

How do I make him love me?

Q:

I have a big crush on this guy in a grade higher than me. We don't have any classes together but we are both in band and on the school paper. I know I love him because I just can't get him off of my mind. At a party I confessed my true feelings and he told me he liked me too - as a friend. He said he just wanted us to be friends right now. I really, really want to be with him, how do I make him love me?

A:

You are suffering from a killer one-sided crush, also known as "unrequited love", and there really isn't much you can do to change it into a relationship. I'll be blunt. You can not make somebody love you. You can't even make them like you. There are no magic spells or secret tricks that will make a person suddenly feel for you the way you feel for them. Love doesn't work like that (and thank the sweet stars above that it doesn't!). Love, when it is real and returned, is one of the most amazing feelings you will ever experience. Although it is hard to accept that this person doesn't return your feelings, it may help you to know that the pain you now feel will be erased from your heart when you find someone who does love you back.

Now back to the issue at hand, coping with your current crush. Since he has made his feelings for you clear, namely that he wants to be friends, you really only have one choice. You have to honor his feelings and wishes. You do however have options as to exactly how you handle the "friendship situation". You can swallow your feelings, move on and work on having "just a friendship" with this guy or, you can harbour your feelings and hope that the future will see your friendship turn romantic. Either way, the one thing you should do is actively take him up on his offer of friendship in spite of your deeper feelings.

Take heart, all is not lost! Friendship is always a good place to start. Right now he only knows a "one dimensional" you, as your friendship progresses he will come to see your many sides. With time, his feelings may even deepen into romatic interest. You say that the two of you are not in any classes together so it is entirely possible that his "Let's be friends!" comment is not a mere brush off, but a bonafide offer. He may want to start as friends because he doesn't know you well enough to have any deeper feelings (a sign that he is a good guy BTW), or he may be using the "friendship line" as a brush off (a sign that he is NOT a good guy BTW). You can't be certain which of these is true until you make a go of the friendship. Work from the premise that he really wants a friendship with you until he indicates otherwise.

By becoming his friend you get the opportunity let him see a new side of you, and you get to see a new side of him. In getting closer you may even fall into a relationship. Of course, the opposite is also true. As you get to know him better your crush, which is built on a fantasy not a reality, may disappear and you may lose interest in him. There are no guarantees that your feelings will stay the same through your burgeoning friendship. There are also no guarantees that his current feelings will change into love. After you become friends you may end up exactly where you are right now, in a one-sided love affair. But at this point in time, what have you got to lose? At the very least you gain a closer acquaintance and at the most you'll get your man!

Mark Gastineau’s Secret Son

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When I was nine I fell in love with Mark Gastineau.
Shut up. I don’t want to hear it. Yes, he had a mullet. Yes, he turned into a broke, coked-out werewolf living in his sister’s basement. But I still have an autographed picture of him in my bedroom.

Proudly.

However, it is yet another not-so-proud moment for Mark and the Gastineau’s today as it has been revealed that Mark fathered a child with Danish, um, actress and former Flavor Flav lover, Brigette Nielson.

Groan. Some bitches…

Now Gastineau’s daughter Brittny is yapping to anyone who’ll listen about meeting her brother for the first time.

Via The New York Post:

“Brittny told us how she was shocked to discover she has a half-brother named Killian Marcus Gastineau. Brittny said she had heard rumors, but never knew her brother existed until her mother, Lisa, bumped into Nielsen at Ivana Trump’s wedding last April.”

Apparently anyone could have attended Ivana Trump’s wedding.

On an emotional note, Brittny had this to say about her brother.

“Meeting my half-brother for the first time was really very weird and very emotional. The brother I never knew I had — it’s a lot to take in . . . All my life, I’ve always said I wanted a brother. I definitely want us to be close.”

No word from Mark Gastineau as it seems his sister cut off the phone in the basement. (No worries, Mark. You are still mah’ boo).

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How To Learn From Your Mistakes

One of the best ways to relieve stress is to learn from your mistakes. Unfortunately, it’s difficult to find the balance between seeing too many things as someone else’s fault and seeing too many things as your fault. And in both cases, rumination can take root and cause too much stress. But how can you learn from your mistakes if you don’t realize when you’ve made one?
There’s no easy answer on how to learn from your mistakes that will work every time, though chapters have been written about it in classic books like The Road Less Traveled, and opportunities to address the topic have been missed in others, like The Four Agreements. However, there are some strategies you can use to learn from your mistakes that will work in various situations most of the time. When you’re trying to learn from your mistakes, consider the following:


Reframe Your Mistakes
First, use reframing to stop thinking of your mistakes as failures. They can be more accurately described as opportunities for learning—people generally learn more from mistakes than they learn from successes. With each mistake, you can learn valuable information that can be used for future success.

Be Forgiving
Next, maintain perspective and don’t take mistakes too seriously. Blaming others for our mistakes can be a defense mechanism for those who are harsh with ourselves when we mess up—we stay in denial because we can’t take our own harsh self-condemnation. Be forgiving. Just changing your outlook on this can make it less threatening to recognize when you’re responsible or partially responsible for things going other than you’d planned. And that makes you more able to learn from your mistakes.





See What You Can Change
Rather than thinking of who is more responsible for a situation—you or another person—look at the situation as a whole in terms of what you can change. If you view taking responsibility through the lens of personal control—what can you change next time, what do you have control over?—makes it an empowering experience to learn from your mistakes.

Look Beyond
Look at other sides of the same situation. How do different people in the situation feel. How might things have gone differently if you’d made different choices? Look at the situation in different ways. Play with it. And see what you can learn for next time.

Ask Questions
Ask for impartial opinions. Have a few trusted friends who will tell you the truth, and who can see things from both sides, and ask them what they see. Sometimes we’re too close to a situation to make sense of it at first, but an observer who isn’t so emotionally attached, and who can deliver their opinion with love and tact, is what we need to help us learn from our mistakes.

Pat Yourself On The Back
Congratulate yourself for whatever growth you’ve gained from dealing with each difficult situation you encounter and each mistake you make. Remember that these things add value to life as much as the more pleasant experiences we all value. And be glad that you always have the opportunity to learn from your mistakes in one way or another

Do you really, truly love yourself?

“To say 'I love you' one must first be able to say the 'I'.” ---Ayn Rand

Rand touches on a point that is worth exploring. You have to know and love YOU before even trying to love anyone else.


Have you said any of these things to yourself:

“I’m never going to get over this break up.”

“I can’t believe this happened... again.”

“I don’t want to just be friends. I want this person now!”

“I’m sick of playing games. I just want people to be real.”

“Maybe I need to focus on my career right now. Love can wait.”


It’s as if you have tried EVERYTHING to find that one person that loves you, and no matter what you do, you can't find love.

Well, here's a little secret about attraction:


Learning how to love yourself is
the foundation of any love relationship.
If you don't love YOU, you can't love anyone else. Period.






The most important person in your life is you. The person who you love the most in the world should be you! Why not? Who better than you?

"YOU" are the one person you have to spend every waking moment of your life with.

"YOU" are the only person who will be there for you when no one else is.

"YOU" are all you have no matter what.




When you First Love YOU, you will give yourself what you need.

You will become highly attractive to others because you are coming to them out of wholeness, not out of a repulsive neediness.

You will be able to have fulfilling relationships, and you will have no problem ending relationships which don't serve your growth.

The concept is simple, though it isn't easy to learn how to love yourself. It's going to take some hard work. Are you ready for it?



By becoming self-mindful, taking it step-by-step, and developing self-confidence, you can increase your overall happiness in love and life!


All you have to do is FIRST LOVE YOU and everything else will fall into place.

Ajiua Baada ya Video Akilawitiwa Kuwekwa Online

Mwanafunzi wa kiume wa nchini Marekani ambaye marafiki zake walirekodi kwa siri video wakati akiingiliwa kinyume cha maumbile na mwanaume mwenzie na kisha kuiweka video hiyo kwenye internet amejiua kwa kujirusha toka kwenye daraja.
Tyler Clementi, Mwanafunzi wa kiume wa mwaka wa kwanza wa chuo kikuu cha Rutgers University cha nchini Marekani mwenye umri wa miaka 18 ambaye alikuwa akifanya ushoga kwa siri, amejiua mwenyewe kwa kujirusha toka kwenye daraja baada ya video yake akiingiliwa kinyume cha maumbile na mwanaume mwingine kurushwa LIVE kwenye internet.

Clementi alijirusha wiki iliyopita toka kwenye daraja la George Washington na kuangukia kwenye mto mkubwa wa Hudson River, last week, maiti yake ilipatikana juzi kwenye mto huo.

Clementi alichukua uamuzi wa kujiua baada ya kugundua marafiki zake aliokuwa akikaa nao chumba kimoja walimrekodi kwa siri wakati akifanya mapenzi na mwanaume mwingine na VIDEO za tukio hilo zilirushwa LIVE kwenye internet kupitia Webcam.

"Kama angekuwa kitandani na mwanamke, haya yote yasingetokea", alisema mmoja wa wanafunzi wa chuo hicho.

"Kama asingeanikwa LIVE kwenye internet, mambo yake ya ndani yasingeanikwa na leo tungekuwa naye hapa", aliongeza mwanafunzi huyo.

Wanafunzi wawili mmoja wa kiume Dhraun Ravi na mwingine wa kike Molly Wei, ambao wote wana umri wa miaka 18, wamefunguliwa mashtaka ya kuvunja haki za msingi za Clementi.

Mahakama iliambiwa kuwa webcam ilitumika kurusha LIVE tukio la Clementi akiingiliwa na mwanaume mwingine mnamo septemba 19 na Ravi alijaribu kulirusha LIVE tena tukio la pili lililofanyika septemba 21 ambayo ni siku moja kabla ya Clementi kujiua.

Taasisi za kutetea haki za mashoga zimeichachamalia kesi hii zikitaka Ravi na mwenzake wahukumiwe adhabu kali.

Taasisi hizo zimesema kuwa Ravi na mwenzake wameonyesha chuki waliyo nayo kwa mashoga na wasagaji na wameitaka mahakama itoe adhabu kali.

Ravi na mwenzake huenda wakahukumiwa kwenda jela miaka mitano iwapo watapatikana na hatia ya kuingilia undani wa mtu bila ya ridhaa yake

'Mama Yako ni Adui wa Taifa'

Kijana mmoja wa nchini Marekani ambaye alijifanya ni jasusi wa shirika la ujasusi la Marekani la CIA, amehukumiwa kifungo cha maisha baada ya kumshawishi rafiki yake kumuua mama yake mzazi kwakuwa mama yake huyo alikuwa ni hatari kwa taifa.
Corderral Smith kijana mwenye umri wa miaka 22 ambaye alikuwa mwanafunzi aliyefukuzwa shule alipokuwa sekondari, aliwaongopea watu wengi akiwemo mpenzi wake mjamzito kuwa yeye ni jajusi wa CIA na watu wote waliamini kuwa yeye ni jasusi kutokana na hati feki alizokuwa akizionyesha.

Smith kwa kutumia staili zake za ulaghai alifanikiwa kumshawishi rafiki yake Jason Rizzi, 20 aliyefahamiana naye kupitia mtandao wa MySpace amuue mama yake mzazi mwenye umri wa miaka 50, Gloria Ryan baada ya kumuambia kuwa mama yake huyo ni "Mtu hatari sana kwa usalama wa taifa na hafai kuwa karibu na mtu yoyote".

Smith alimuahidi Rizzi kuwa iwapo atalilinda taifa kwa kumuua mama yake mzazi atachukuliwa na CIA kama askari kanzu.

Rizzi aliamini maneno aliyoambiwa kwasababu mama yake alikuwa akijua mambo mengi ya serikali. Rizzi alimuua mama yake akiamini anaifanyia kazi serikali.

Hata baada ya kukamatwa kwa kumuua mama yake kwa kumpiga risasi, Rizzi aliendelea kuamini kuwa Smith alikuwa ni jasusi wa CIA.

"Hivi mna uhakika kuwa Smith sio jasusi?", aliuliza Rizzi alipotiwa mbaroni mjini Cleveland, Texas.

Mbali ya kujifanya kuwa yeye ni jasusi, Smith pia alijifanya kuwa yeye ni promota mkubwa wa wasanii wa Hip Hop akionyesha picha mbalimbali akiwa amekaa mbele ya silaha mbalimbali zilizotundikwa ukutani.

Mahakama iliambiwa kuwa mpenzi wa Smith ambaye ni mjamzito pamoja na watu wengine waliamini kuwa Smith ni jasusi kwani mara kadhaa alikuwa akitoa nyaraka feki zilizofanana na nyaraka za kweli za CIA.

Lakini mahakama iliambiwa kuwa Smith hakuwa jasusi bali kibarua katika kampuni za ujenzi.

Smith ambaye alikuwa akitambulisha kama CJ Shaw alikanusha kuhusika na mauaji ya mama yake Rizizi lakini alihukumiwa kwenda jela maisha.

Rizzi atasomewa hukumu yake mwezi ujao

Uchungu wa Mwana..

Mama mmoja nchini Israel amenusurika kufariki baada ya kujirusha toka ghorofa ya nne baada ya kuona watoto wake wawili wamejirusha chini kupitia dirishani.
Mama mmoja mwenye umri wa miaka 38 mkazi wa mji wa Tel Aviv nchini Israel, amenusurika kufariki baada ya kujirusha toka kwenye ghorofa ya nne.

Mama huyo alichukua uamuzi huo wa haraka baada ya kuona watoto wake wawili wamejirusha chini kupitia dirishani toka kwenye nyumba yao iliyopo ghorofa ya nne.

Mama huyo aliamua kutumia dirisha hilo hilo kujiua mwenyewe kwa kujirusha hadi chini.

Bahati nzuri kwao, mama na watoto wake wote wawili walinusurika maisha yao ingawa wamevunjika vunjika viungo vingi vya miili yao.

Mtoto mmoja alikuwa wa kike mwenye umri wa miaka 7 wakati mtoto wake wa pili alikuwa wa kiume mwenye umri wa miaka 5.

Hali ya mtoto wa kike inaendelea vizuri lakini hali ya mtoto wa kiume si ya kuridhisha.

Baada ya kufikishwa hospitali mama wa watoto hao alipoulizwa sababu ya kujirusha toka ghorofa ya nne alisema kuwa alifikiria watoto wake ndio wameishafariki hivyo na yeye aliamua kujiua.