How girls find a good lover - how to select your husband / lover / partner for life ??

Many points have already been published and are valid for both
girls searching a man for life
men searching for a lover girl for eternity

girls have to be picky
to be pregnant from the wrong one feels and is like a disaster lasting years or a lifetime !!
men as well are tricky and hide their ego and weakness behind walls of tricks and silly ego-games

when you see the one you find attractive
test his true love FIRST
look what he is doing FOR others
look how he is treating OTHERS - foreigners to him
look how much he cares FOR any other person, culture, country or all creation
is what he has the gift of his father / mother / others or the result of his own productive work - his own creation from scratch or a mere disguise/repacking of other people's hard work ??
how much of his income does he spend for HIS lifestyle and how little / much does he spend for the wellbeing of OTHERS

a truly loving husband always has a VERY substantial share of love, resources, time, work and money FOR others in his heart

a man however who only carries credit cards or ATM cards obviously is used to seldom or never spontaneously share or help

a man spending substantial amounts for his lifestyle, cloths, car, gadgets, vacation, etc has little left to truly love and help OTHERS

a man who bargains ab out price
a man who just "gets by" in life tries to get the maximum benefit FROM others for the least effort from his part - hence he is STINGY in all aspects of life - toward you, his children and all his loved ones as well

such men are poor lovers and may never satisfy your need and hunger for true sincere divine love

look what a man HAS already achieved in life
did or does he work with his body, mind and hands
or does he let others do the dirty work

does he reuse or modify products or services MADE BY OTHERS or does he create from scratch all his own work ??
is he merely a RE-seller or re-packer of other people's services or products
or does he really do, invent and create out of his very own useful services and products ??

chose the one whose life is mainly the product of his very own efforts
a man free from his parents
a man free from other people's influence
a man strong enough to DO what FEELS right even if all society or culture may think differently
a man who is can can be loyal to HIS heart rather than loyal to his employer, bank and income
a man who loves to love and is ready to sacrifice a higher salary for a more loving, harder, dirtier or more useful job

a man who fears never can make happy
a man who fears never can carry you home to God
a man who follows orders rather than being his own boss is a weak slave of stronger ones and thus a poor lover

a man who wants to possess you
a man who wants to marry you
...
is a man with a weak love - hence he wants to attache you by legal means rather than attract you by the power of his true love

a truly loving man is the one whose aura makes you feel GOOD
an aura that you can actually FEEL whenever you are within the same house or room
an aura that gives you the feeling of security, coziness, being loved,
an aura that makes you feel comfortable being who you are - a female girl
an aura that satisfies your needs of true love by making you relaxed, happy and gives you the "butterflies" all over - inside and outside - to FEEL loved by him

be demanding and never accept any excuses nor any "later"
a man always has to prove love from the very first seconds and minutes
be ready to test his love be ready to love be ready to BE loved
instantly and fully

a man who wants to use condom or any similar method of "contraception" rejects any possibility to FALL in love - and postpones any serious decision of his mind AND heart to a later time ... later may be a few years, decades or after death!!
the right one is ready for TRUE and FULL love at once from the very first second
love at first glance from he bottom of HIS heart
to the center of YOUR heart ...

and what about YOUR heart-decision ?? NOW or later or never ?? if love is what you want
then love is what you need to accept AND GIVE as well
from the first seconds of course
ALL or NOTHING at all
NOW or never
!!!

everything else is but a waste of time
a waste of time means a waste of fun-time
a waste of time also means a waste of resources of many kind

we all have but ONE life to live, to love, to enjoy and to have fun
HERE and NOW
and that ONE life may last eternally and thus far beyond this physical lifetime

a day without true love
a day at the side of a wrong one - man or girl
ALWAYS is a WASTED day

Unless you love yourself you cannot love anybody

Unless you love yourself you cannot love anybody, it is impossible, because a man who is not in love with himself cannot be in love with anybody. If you are in love with yourself, only then can your overflowing love reach somebody.

A man who has not loved himself will hate himself, and if you yourself hate yourself, how can you love anybody? You will hate others also. You can only pretend. And when you cannot love yourself, how do you expect others to love you? Everyone is condemned in his own eyes. The whole moralistic teaching gives you only one thing: techniques of self condemnation -- how to condemn yourself, how you are bad, a criminal, guilty, a sinner.

Christianity says that your being a sinner is not a question of what you do/ you are born a sinner. It is not a question of whether you do some sin or not; no, you are a born sinner. Man is born in sin. Adam, the first man, committed the sin, and you are descendants. The sin has been committed, nothing can be done. Now it cannot be undone, and you are born into sin -- Adam's sin.

If you are born in sin, how can you love yourself? If your very being is guilt, how can you love yourself? And if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anybody. The love must happen at home first -- you are the home -- and only when it overflows can it reach to others. And when it overflows, it overflows into your acts, into whatsoever you do. Whether you paint or make a shoe or anything -- just cleaning the street -- whatsoever you do, if you are in deep love, if you are in deep love with yourself, it flows into everything you do. It flows even when you are not doing anything. It goes on flowing, it becomes your very existence, and then nothing is boring.

Mwana Mfalme William kuoa

William, ambaye ni mrithi wa pili wa kiti cha ufalme, atafunga ndoa mwakani, katika mwaka ambao ungeadhimisha miaka 30 ya ndoa ya wazazi wake.

Wawili hao waliweka ahadi ya uchumba mwezi Oktoba nchini Kenya, wakati wakiwa katika mapumziko.


William na Kate walianza kuwa na mahusiano miaka minane iliyopita, wakati wakisoma katika chuo kikuu cha cha Mtakatifu Andrews huko Fife, ambapo pia waliishi katika nyumba moja.

Ndoa hiyo imetangazwa katika taarifa fupi iliyotolewa na Clarence House.

Taarifa

Taarifa hiyo imesema: "Mwana Mfalme wa Wales, ana furaha ya kutangaza ndoa ya mwanae, Mwana Mfalme William atakayofunga na Bi Catherine Middleton.

"Harusi itafanyika wakati wa majira ya joto ya mwaka 2011, mjini London. Taarifa zaidi kuhusu harusi hiyo zitatangazwa baadaye.

"Mwana Mfalme William amemfahamisha Malkia na ndugu wengine wa karibu.




"Mwana Mfalme William pia ameomba ruhusa kutoka kwa baba wa Bi Kate.

"Baada ya kufunga ndoa, wawili hao wataishi kaskazini mwa Wales, ambapo Mwana Mfalme William ataendelea na kazi katika jeshi la Anga la Uingereza Royal Air Force."