We love each other, but then we know where not right for each other.?

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We love each other, but then we know where not right for each other.?
But know body wants to be the first to quit in this marriage. What to do? I could handle it if he just disappeared, but he has know where to go really. I know he loves me, but doesn't love me the way I want to be loved.




What to do? I'm not leaving, I can afford to pay where I stay. But I dont want to quit, but feel, we should cause there os someone out there I could be missing out on. How do I handle this?



Hi Vanessa,

Sometime back I was going through the same phase. I felt that I love him and he loves me too but it somehow didnt seem good enough. I guess that's how it is in any marriage, after few years, no matter how much you love your partner and no matter how much they love you back, it never seems 'good enough'. That's human nature. We need to feel the rush of something new, something exciting and no matter how wonderful our partner or marriage may be, it tends to become mundane, ordinary and boring. There is no fun anymore, no matter how much we try. I can understand it.

Even if you would find a new guy, it wud be the same with him for few weeks, months or even years and after a while, you will feel he aint loving you enough.

Vanessa, you will keep looking for that perfect love in life but you may never find it because the idea of the perfect man who would understand us, know every feeling, every sensation we experience, love us JUST the way we want, doesnt exist! Afterall, they are humans too.

In a relationship, when we are in love, we are able to sense each other feelings and emotions. Due to distances, that connection seems to fade away. It is upto you and your husband to keep the connection alive.

Simply marrying the man you love will not make him a perfect lover. Any r'ship needs to be nurtured, like a plant, on an everyday basis. Help it grow, nourish it, so you may enjoy its fruits.

Secondly, you need to find ways to love yourself first. Find Satisfaction within and you will be content in all situations. (unless there is something really terrribly wrong). Be creative, do something for yourself, like take a trip down (anywhere), spend a week, explore, have a open mind, enjoy and when you are back rejuvenated, full of life, you will realize you will be able to give so much to this relationship.

Any man unless he is insecure loves a woman that is self assured and not needy. Love needs to happen between two people, you can't force anyone to love you in a certain way. Everyone finds their own rhythm, their own way to express their feelings and that's what makes it unique.